You’re never too young nor too old to make a New Year’s
resolution. Even the youngest child can set a goal to brush their teeth every
morning or pick up their toys before bed. Making resolutions together as a
family is a good way for parents to exemplify the benefits of setting and
reaching a goal.
Family Tradition
When making and keeping resolutions becomes part of your
family's traditions, children grow accustomed to reflecting on their past and
looking for areas of improvement. Spend some time between Christmas and New
Year’s Day discussing with your child what she has accomplished over the year.
Perhaps she worked to improve her math grade or increase her reading
comprehension. Praise her for her progress. If she started strong and then
fizzled out around March, you can also talk about why she stopped working or
progressing in that area. It’s possible she progressed as far as she was
capable. In that case, she should be encouraged to call her efforts a success.
If the goal was too broad or too advanced for her age, set it aside until she is
older and pick something more appropriate this year.
Share Your Goals
Once every member of the family has chosen a goal, have a
family meeting where you reveal your resolution. This is a good time to record them
in a journal, on a bulletin board or place them in a special box. Have each
child write their own resolution or draw a picture of their goal. Both sharing
their goals and writing them down help to solidify the decision and make it
real. Parents should share their goals as well.
Sticking to It
Some adults are motivated by checking items off their to-do
list and kids are no different. Adding the New Year’s resolution to a child’s daily
chore chart will help them remember it every day and allow them to feel a sense
of accomplishment as they complete the task. You can also hold monthly meetings
where family members review their goals. If you are already holding weekly
family night, simply add five minutes to the beginning or end of the evening to
review progress, redirect if necessary, and provide encouragement and praise.
Randomly look for times when you can reward your children, and yourself, for
your efforts. Focusing on the positive and using failure as a springboard for
improvement and reevaluation, will improve your child’s self esteem and provide
them with a model they can follow throughout their life.
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